What’s one of the best ways to help your teen succeed in school? Expect a lot from him! If you make your expectations clear from the start, he will work harder to meet them. Try these strategies.
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Be clear
Think about what you want your teenager to accomplish this year. For example, you probably expect him to attend school every day, complete all assignments, and do his best. Be sure to set expectations that are high—but doable for him. (Anticipating all As, for instance, could set him up for failure.) Then, clearly communicate your expectations to him.
Mention regularly
Weave your expectations into daily conversations. Example: “Do you want to watch a movie when you finish studying?” rather than “Do you want to watch a movie?” Also, don’t give in if he begs for “exceptions” like staying home from school to catch up on sleep. You might respond, “You can sleep in this weekend, but you have to go to school every day unless you’re sick.”
Follow through
Support your teen in ways that will help him meet your expectations. Say he has a big project due Monday. Ask about his weekend plans, and mention that you know he needs time to work. Then, before he leaves for a talent show or a party, check on his progress. Discuss whether his plan for finishing the project is viable. Finally, when your teen meets your expectations, let him know you’ve noticed.
